Settling-in

The settling-in to our nursery

The initial and separation phase

This phase lasts up to a week, but since every child is unique, it cannot be defined by a specific number of days.

On the first day, the visit should not exceed one hour and should gradually increase each day. For the first three days, you stay with your child in the group room to help them gain familiarity with the new environment, other children, and future caregivers. Your role is to be a "safe haven" for your child, remaining attentive yet passive. Avoid pushing your child to play or interact; they will do so when ready.

From the fourth day, a brief separation can occur. As discussed, say goodbye and leave the room for a moment, remaining on school grounds during further separation phases.  Depending on your child's reaction, the first separation lasts between 10 and 30 minutes, with subsequent separations extending in duration, indicating the overall adjustment period.

Possible child reactions include:

1. Your child calmly accepts the goodbye, quickly reassured by caregivers and returns to play.

2. Your child struggles with the goodbye and cannot be calmed, necessitating your return.

The stabilization phase

Once your child accepts the separation, you will say goodbye daily and gradually extend the duration of your absence. However, please always remain reachable so you can return if your child becomes overwhelmed by your absence. It’s important to say goodbye to your child and consider establishing a shared farewell ritual.

The final phase – goal

The settling-in is complete when your child accepts a caregiver as a secure base and can be comforted, changed, and fed during times of distress. However, one parent should always be reachable for emergencies.

What aids adjustment?

The entire adjustment process should be conducted by one parent or primary caregiver. This simplifies the approach. The focus is on the child’s needs, with a gentle introduction to the new environment and acceptance of the new caregiver, forming the foundation for ongoing educational work. Throughout the settling-in period, the child needs stability. A cuddly toy from home and plenty of physical closeness after the time in nursery help the child to adapt better to the new situation.